What are my aspirations for my kids? Well, I’m very open minded and laid back don’t ya know. So long as they are happy and healthy, that is good enough for me. Although, that reminds me of a quote that I once read…..
“I don’t know why we are here, but I’m pretty sure that it is not in order to enjoy ourselves.” Ludwig Wittgenstein
And actually, thinking about it, there are a couple of tincy wincy caveats I’d like to add to the ‘happy’ aspiration.
I mean, obvs, I’d rather that inflicting pain and suffering on others doesn’t make them happy.
Just add to that, I don’t want money and power to be their primary source of happiness, because that’s a bit, well, ick isn’t it?
How about Being Succesful? Excelling. In something? Anything? Everything! Although, maybe that would make them a bit…er…annoying?
I can say that I have no wish to prescribe what they should do with each stage of their life, or to insist they stick to the path that I set them upon.
I do, however, want to provide them with the confidence to read the sign posts we stumble across when deciding where we take our lives next. I need them to feel able to question the politicians, the advertisers, the media and, well, me. I need to know they’ve been equipped to make decisions that they feel are right for them and their loved ones and society as a whole. And when the needs of these different individuals should conflict, I need them to have the courage to search for what they believe is truly right.
I realise I care not so much what make them happy, but more about how they undertake their own pursuit of happiness. I realise I don’t want them to experience life as one big party thrown on their behalf. As Wittgenestein suggests – there is surely more to it than that. Isn’t there?