Don’t Worry, Be Happy?

What are my aspirations for my kids? Well, I’m very open minded and laid back  don’t ya know. So long as they are happy and healthy, that is good enough for me. Although, that reminds me of a quote that I once read…..

“I don’t know why we are here, but I’m pretty sure that it is not in order to enjoy ourselves.” Ludwig Wittgenstein

And actually, thinking about it, there are a couple of tincy wincy caveats I’d like to add to the ‘happy’ aspiration.

I mean, obvs, I’d rather that inflicting pain and suffering on others doesn’t make them happy.

Just add to that, I don’t want money and power to be their primary source of happiness, because that’s a bit, well, ick isn’t it?

How about Being Succesful? Excelling. In something? Anything? Everything! Although, maybe that would make them a  bit…er…annoying?

I can say that I have no wish to prescribe what they should do with each stage of their life, or to insist they stick to the path that I set them upon.

I  do, however, want to provide them with the confidence to read the sign posts we stumble across when deciding where we take our lives next. I need them to feel able to question the politicians, the advertisers, the media and, well, me. I need to know they’ve been equipped to make decisions that they feel are right for them and their loved ones and society as a whole. And when the needs of these different individuals should conflict, I need them to have the courage to search for what they believe is truly right.

I realise I care not so much what make them happy, but more about how they undertake their own pursuit of happiness. I realise I don’t want them to experience life as one big party thrown on their behalf. As Wittgenestein suggests – there is surely more to it than that. Isn’t there?

4 thoughts on “Don’t Worry, Be Happy?

    • cogitoergomum says:

      I just read your post juliaandjulla. I love how you view happiness as a state of mind, rather than the end result of our actions. I hope my kids feel able to choose this path. I still, though, think it is not just happiness I want for them. Which, as a parent, is an odd thing to say isn’t it? And I still want them to be able to cope when life throws things at them that will make them sad, as it surely will. Thank you for your food for thought. CeM x


  1. thereadingresidence says:

    Interesting post. I think a lot of us say we want our kids to grow up and be happy, but you’re right, maybe there are caveats. Personally, I want to feel I’ve brought my kids up to strive for happiness, believe in themselves to achieve it, and understand that money does not buy you happiness – it’s the people you surround yourself with that can do that. We can only do our best by setting examples for them and believing in them to make the right decisions.


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