I do, often.
So I recap, often
One week into NaNoWriMo, this is my recap. More for my benefit, than yours. But if you are new to this blog, or just pop in now and then, you may find it helps you work out what I’ve been waffling on about all week, and it could give you an idea of the sort of thing that might follow over the next three weeks.
Come the new year, I may need to start back at work. There are a few changes we are making to our home, and I have increased how much time I help out at the local school. I’m not sure how blogging is going to fit into all this. I hope I can carry on my once a week habit, but if not, I thought it would be nice to pull together all the thoughts I’ve had on parenting over the last year and add to them.
I’ve explained a little more about myself. And then I’ve expanded on one of the main problems of modern parenting as I see it: it was great to see the post I wrote on the nonsensical, contradictory, confusing information given parents strike a chord with so many of you. It’s nice to know I’m not alone and hey, you’ve gotta laugh, right?
I had a bit of a wobble and wondered why, after criticising all the ‘advice’ out there on parenting, would I then want to add to that advice? Why on earth anyone should listen to what I have to say when it comes to parenting? In a nutshell, you shouldn’t unless you find what I write either uplifting or comforting or if it strikes a chord with you. I won’t provide you with a stab at a parenting philosophy. I will instead try to give you a philosophical take on parenting. If that’s the sort of thing that floats your boat, read on.
I’ve been a little nostalgic and reflected on what a ‘how to parent’ guide might have looked like a couple of generations ago. Yes, the guide was simple. But t’s not something I want to go back to. How about you?
It’s all good fun laughing at stereotypes of parents when the stereotype is so extreme it can’t possibly be real. But what when others, such as politicians or marketing experts, use these stereotypes to divide us and to satisfy their own vested interests? We can be left thinking that no parenting sub group is particularly good. But we all are. We are great. So it should be easy to define what a ‘good’ parent looks like, shouldn’t it?
It seems there are lots of people out there with the answers. But do they really have our best interest at heart?
I prefer to take my advice from Aristotle and Mary Poppins. Here’s why.
If you want to know a little more about Aristotle’s notion of human’s not doing more and more and more to be better and better and better, then hug a tree. Or read this post about flourishing.
But how do we flourish? Wondering that, I’ve been left with the somewhat daunting notion that as society has become more open minded to all sorts of parenting styles, parenting has perhaps faced an existential crisis of confidence. We have tried to fill the void with stuff we consume, but it’s not working.
But still, when you think of all the ‘stuff’ that many of us have, more specifically all I have, shouldn’t I just have this whole parenting lark sewn up and be enjoying this position of relative privilege?
There are some vague ideas in my mind as to where the next few weeks will take me. Perhaps I’ll look at needs vs wants. Perhaps I’ll see if so called ‘middle-class’ parenting problems are worth the blogs they’re written on.
What I do know is that, before the end of the week, I’d like to talk about children a little more. Because really, they are what ought to be at the centre of a reflection on parenting. Don’t you think?
I hope to see you here during the week. If not, I’ll do a few more of these roundups before the end of November, probably on the weekends. Maybe catch up then.
Hope you have a lovely lazy Sunday.
I’ve realised that over the last year how many great bloggers I have started to follow. I am endeavouring to share some of my favourites at the end of each NaNoWriMo post I do. Here is a recap of the ones I’ve mentioned this week.
Steve Rose at Steve Rose’s Blog
Olivia Fitzgerald at Put the Kettle On
Sonia Cisco at The Ramblings of a Formerly Rock N Roll Mum
Katie Kirby at Hurrah for Gin
Jo Sandelson at Heir Raising