…because we’ve all got time for that, right?
I’m not talking about the toga clad beard-y, waffle-y notion of philosophy. What I’m on about is finding a bit of me-time for your mind.
Sure bath salts, box sets and retail therapy all have their place. But in a world where parents are constantly judged, told they could be parenting better, made to feel that their choices are inadequate, sometimes that sort of chill-out time doesn’t help. It can, if you are like me, make it worse – giving your thoughts time to spiral out of control into insurmountable worries.
A mental work-out can give you the resolve to fight those inner doubts and the doubters that like to share their views on all that you are doing wrong.
A bit of philosophising here and there can stretch your thoughts like yoga might stretch your hamstrings. It can strengthen your core beliefs and values like pilates might strengthen your core muscles. Like any healthy eating regime, it helps you identify and weed out the rubbish. It can make you more resilient to the white noise of others’ opinions and your own internal critic.
Give it a little time and before you know it, you’ll be able to think yourself into all sorts of flexible thoughts. You’ll be able to consider views you never thought possible. As you become more confident with how you think, you’ll become more confident in what you think and ultimately what you are doing.
And the real plus side of this type of work-out is you can do it in the bath, while stuffing your face with chocolate and drinking wine. What’s not to love?
Still not convinced it’s for you? I reckon it is you already…..
- ….those famous philosophers who have tried to convey how complicated the notion of ‘truth‘ is need have looked no further than our kitchens over breakfast, “It wasn’t me, it was him!” Was it?
- ….those great thinkers who have pondered the nature of beauty can never really understand the nuances of this subject like a Mum. A Mum, with the wobbly Mum body greeted by her toddler who says, full of naïve wisdom (if there can be such a thing), “You are beautiful Mummy”.
- …those wise, ancient Greeks could never grapple with what it is to be ‘good‘ like a parent does. Is the Mum who lets her toddler see her wobbly body in its full, naked, glory a bad parent? Is that same toddler who hit his sibling being ‘bad’ or just non-compliant? And does that difference matter, anyway?
As you consider the infinite nature of the washing pile, the need to feed your family both ethically and on a budget, the sort of education to give them, how to discipline, whether they should hit back, whether it’s wrong to lie about Father Christmas, whether to bin or Pin the latest picture they brought back from school, how to help them flourish whilst also making sure you don’t disappear – these sum up the great philosophical conundrums that those famous thinkers have made their names from.
Really, when asking you to add ‘be a philosopher’ to the list, I’m not asking much at all.
You are one already when you think about it!
4 thoughts on “Philosophy. For Parents…”
Interesting that philosophy makes you more confident of your beliefs. It makes me more confident of my process, but devalues and destabilizes my beliefs much more often than not. Actually, learning to value process over “answer” was, for me, the greatest benefit of philosophy.
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Its strange isn’t it. Perhaps I need to be more careful with my choice of words though. I think it’s just that the more I think about parenting the more I realise nobody knows any more than me,so it gives me confidence to just do what i do. When i think about it, that’s probably what i was trying to get at in this post here on truth https://cogitoergomum.me/2015/11/02/the-truth-behind-being-a-mum/
thanks as always for your thoughtful and helpful comments. have a good weekend.
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I agree plus I do it but sadly thinking about being a parent and wanting to discuss those thoughts is in my experience pretty unpopular – except in forums such as your blog. What parents want you to do is whine about the kids, whine about any time you spend with the kids and laugh about drinking too much wine.
Loving your kids, loving being with them, wanting to explore ideas to improve their world and help them grow to be good global citizens, is taboo in most circles, sadly.
Don’t get me started on wanting to flourish as a woman and a parent for your own personal development…